Posted by MITHUN CHANDRA on Feb. 14, 2013, 3:16 p.m.
Love has always been a popular topic among friends and peers. We teens are no different and it is the best topic of discussion among us too. Everybody wants to know who is dating who and who is hitting on whom. Teens are the most active in exploration of this elusive emotion and understanding what is love.
Love has been defined as the best experience in one’s life. However, the hectic life that we have now, we fail to pay heed to our feelings and sometimes are forced to ignore or misunderstand them. Problem arises when a person does this. Most of the times a person do not know whether he or she is in love. Or worse, s/he chooses the wrong person to fall for.
Love is as old as the earth itself. As the centuries passed not only the lives of people have changed, approach to the feeling of LOVE too has changed drastically. Gone are the days when a lover ‘wasted’ loads of time wooing his beloved. Gone are the days of Devdas or Romeo & Juliet. Nobody believes in cheesy lines and love letters today. We are living at a time when pizza reaches home faster than an ambulance! This is the time of instant love and bad karma.
21st Century Love: Good or Bad?
‘21st Century’…sounds pretty cool and modern, doesn’t it? So what is love in 21st century? We are the generation who boast of a fast approach towards life. We laugh and snigger at the slow paced minds of the older generations. Each and every one of us want to brag about our love. We take pride in using Google and Facebook. We might remain far away from our dears yet we feel so close, thanks to Mark Zuckerburg. Whew! What inventions.
In the midst of Android and Twitter, do any of us wonder whether our emotions are getting mechanical or not? Love in our generation seems a far-fetched stuff…something that can only be seen in movies. We do not like to commit. Are we not getting a bit too mechanical?
David and Linda (fictitious characters) meet one day.
They ‘hook-up’ the next day.
‘Facebook-ed’ each other for the entire third day.
Make-out on the fourth day.
Fifth Day?.. They break up and ‘move on’.
The term ‘Moving On’ is very contradictory. So what you had a break-up…move on buddy! Life goes on even if you stop in your tracks. That is what 21stcentury love is all about. There are only handfuls who want to commit to ONE person and stick to him/her for the entire life. Otherwise, who would want to date ‘only one’ when there are a lot others waiting in line? If one can go out with 7 people on 7 days, why stick to that “one-boring-person”.
Not only this, we date innumerable people and get married to a complete stranger. Or better not get married at all. It does not trouble the 21st century generation that they are losing out on the emotional values. Moreover, the person who really falls in love and gets betrayed suffers the most. But, who cares?? You have a long list of options waiting for you at the Facebook page.
And lastly, friends are ‘only’ friends today. Nobody turns to your husband/wife!
Are we really moving on from our ex or moving ‘away’ from love?
Love…Obsession…Infatuation
‘No honey, you were not in love…it was only infatuation’…
‘Don’t love so much that it turns to an Obsession!’…
The difficulty of differentiating between the three has been posing a problem since the days of ‘Adam & Eve’. We are standing at a point of time when it is very much possible to misunderstand what is love and what is not. We do not stick to one person and search for the next. We do not have count of the number of ex-es we have. Hence, the question…’I am in Love, or Am I?’
- If you cannot think about anything or anybody else except that special one… go on buddy, you are in LOVE!
- If you have a partner and still think about the guy/girl next door, leave the present! It’s an infatuation!
- Obsession is when you spend sleepless nights or cannot stand anybody near your partner. That is great problem because you need to give him/her the space!
LOVE, OBSESSION, and INFATUATION are very similar. They can be placed side by side. Yet they are very much different. If you mistake one for the other, you are going to face serious trouble, my dear!
So, gear up and fear not to love! Because, no matter how cheesy you think it is, it is Love that makes the world go round! Think twice before leaving a person, he/she might just be the special one!
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